Etiquette Tip of the Week

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Top 10 Table Manners

 Chew With Your Mouth Closed!

“Table manners have evolved over centuries to make the practice of eating with others pleasant and sociable. With so many table manners to keep track, keep these basic, but oh-so-important, table manners in mind as you eat.

1. Chew with your mouth closed.

2. Keep your smartphone off the table and set to silent or vibrate. Wait to check calls and texts until you are finished with the meal and away from the table.

3. Don’t use your utensils like a shovel or stab your food.

4. Don’t pick your teeth at the table.

5. Remember to use your napkin.

6. Wait until you’re done chewing to sip or swallow a drink. (Choking is clearly an exception.)

7. Cut only one piece of food at a time.

8. Avoid slouching and don’t place your elbows on the table while eating (though it is okay to prop your elbows on the table while conversing between courses, and always has been, even in Emily’s day).

9. Instead of reaching across the table for something, ask for it to be passed to you.

10. Take part in the dinner conversation.”

(The Emily Post Institute:


 Don’t Wear White After Labor Day!

“Summer clothes are lighter in color as well as weight, and their accessories can be much less conservative. Colored socks are entirely proper not only in browns and grays, but in light bluish colors as well. Ties of printed foulard or handkerchiefs may be of matching color or may be embellished with patterns or whole scenes in brightest colors.

A gray or blue suit in the new lightweight, crease-resistant summer fabrics has the advantage of being correct for the city and not looking out of place in the country.”

(The New Emily Post Etiquette: The Blue Book of Social Usage)


Choice of Writing Paper

Paper for a Man:

“Writing paper for a man should always be conservative. Plain white or cream, or gray or granite, or a deep blue (not turquoise) paper of medium or larger size, and stamped with his address of his initials or, for social correspondence, with his crest, if he has one, is in good taste.

The color of the engraving (or printing) should be black or navy blue, but not green.

A very practical paper for a man’s non-social correspondence is a single sheet 7 or 7 1/4 inches by 10 or 10 1/2 inches marked in plain block letters in navy blue at the top. His name without title, his address and his telephone number—all three appear. This paper can be used for typewriting or handwriting, and is folded in threes to fit into a 7 1/4 or 7 1/2 by 4-inch envelope. Good stationers supply correctly sized paper and envelopes that match.”

Paper for a Woman:

“White, cream, all blues, grays, and mauves are in best taste. Pink is on the fringe of admittance; green is still not admitted. Paper should be of small or medium size, single or double sheets, plain or with any colored border—even green or red if it be extremely narrow—and stamped with either a monogram, initials, address, or both, in color to match the border. Writing ink may be violet as well as any blue, but not green.”

(The New Emily Post Etiquette: The Blue Book of Social Usage)